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> Yesterday I saw my former colleague who grabbed the manager role, got promoted to a director. I was hard working and intelligent than him. I could’ve played m
by sillysaurusx 5y ago
> Yesterday I saw my former colleague who grabbed the manager role, got promoted to a director. I was hard working and intelligent than him. I could’ve played my card right and be in that place.
The key to happiness is not to compare yourself to others.
My friend tried to convince me to mine bitcoin. I was worried my GPU would die, so I didn’t. He’s a millionaire now, and works a lot less than I do. If I played my cards right, we’d be on a boat together.
But I’ll be on a boat next week, because a fat paycheck has some benefits. Like yours.
I suggest a long vacation, followed by a dramatic reduction in the number of hours you’re putting in. Forget about work entirely while you’re there. When you’re back, spend every day job hunting.
I have to believe that ageism doesn’t exist, and that you can always change careers. Unfortunately I know it does exist, and that it’s not so easy. But if you fail, your next best option is to embrace the mentality of “do less.” You’re putting in more than your job requires; stop that.
- Mezzie 5y agoAlternatively, if you really can't stop comparing, pick a different reference point until you can stop comparing. When I compare myself against my peers from when I was a child, I end up horribly depressed because I have no PhD, no company, etc. On the other hand, if I compare myself to the average in other categories, I'm doing really well. The employment rate for those with MS is around 30%, and I'm a single gay woman from an abusive household (so no parental support) on top of that. From THAT perspective, the fact that I'm a breadwinner for a middle-class home means I'm doing REALLY well.