Also found it can be good to talk it out later that day once the kid has calmed down or the event has passed. At times asking my child after story time, right

Also found it can be good to talk it out later that day once the kid has calmed down or the event has passed. At times asking my child after story time, right before bed, "hey, remember today when x and y happened. Do you want to talk about it? Why did you get upset?" I find kids will happily talk and give their side of the story. It's good then to explain what you think could be a better way to handle that situation in future. Often they'll agree and I'll even hear them later using the strategies to resolve playtime disputes with other kids. If I raised my voice or was involved in the event being discussed, I will also share my side of the story and explain what I'll try to do to improve or help in future.