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This is why no parent should ever punish a child in anger. Not because it's morally wrong, but because it doesn't work. The first step must be that the child un
by FeepingCreature 5y ago
This is why no parent should ever punish a child in anger. Not because it's morally wrong, but because it doesn't work. The first step must be that the child understands what they did wrong. Then you can tie a punishment to it if you really want it to stick - but first you need to talk it out.
Of course, a parent will often find that after they talked it out, they don't want to punish their kid anymore. (All the better.)
- refurb 5y agoI mean, you should also never raise your voice to your spouse or say things that might be hurtful. But hey, we're all humans, so it's messy. I don't disagree, but I would argue it's unrealistic.
- kayodelycaon 5y agoYour behavior as a parent doesn’t need to be perfect. Being humble and acknowledging and explaining your mistakes is far more important than getting it right in first place.
- thevagrant 5y agoAlso found it can be good to talk it out later that day once the kid has calmed down or the event has passed. At times asking my child after story time, right before bed, "hey, remember today when x and y happened. Do you want to talk about it? Why did you get upset?" I find kids will happily talk and give their side of the story. It's good then to explain what you think could be a better way to handle that situation in future. Often they'll agree and I'll even hear them later using the strategies to resolve playtime disputes with other kids. If I raised my voice or was involved in the event being discussed, I will also share my side of the story and explain what I'll try to do to improve or help in future.