It is not always easy to find, but generally speaking, I find Mark Twain's advice very apt: When you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pa

It is not always easy to find, but generally speaking, I find Mark Twain's advice very apt: When you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. In complex situations like what you describe, there are almost always more actors and/or forces at play than may seem at first glance. For example, many cases of domestic violence are perpetuated by the victim and/or aggressor being victims of not being able to find alternative housing easily, not having the tools/upbringing/training to cope with their situation of forced cohabitation without violence, generational abuse, and many others. It's easy to pick a side and distribute the blame 100% and 0%, but reality is almost always more complicated, there almost always many more factors than may seem obvious at first.