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I think you created this problem for yourself starting with your 'polite note'. How would you feel about a polite note from a friend saying that he is now going

I think you created this problem for yourself starting with your 'polite note'. How would you feel about a polite note from a friend saying that he is now going out with the same girl who dumped you yesterday? I think you need to think through things before acting on your nice-guy impulses. You have definitely ruined your relationship with your ex-boss for no good reason. At this point you want to keep your guy and not have your former boss sue you over it (even if you have a strong case he will make you sink money in legal costs, so avoid court if you can). You can do this by convincing your former boss that your new guy did not know about his options until after he quit. Don't get into a wrestling match with him, even if you are right. Good luck!

rhizome 15y ago
How would you feel about a polite note from a friend saying that he is now going out with the same girl who dumped you yesterday? Possibly even before they've broken up.
georgemcbay 15y ago
I 100% agree with the first part of this, sending the note was a mistake even if the intentions were good. As far as the second part goes, I think the guy should just cut off contact with the old boss completely at this point. The damage is done, continued contact is likely to do more damage than good. If he sues you, he sues you, but contacting him proactively or in response to anything other than a formal legal setting should just be avoided.