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Won't reply to all the strawmen at the bottom of your post, but I and lots of people don't care what people HEAR while we're using the bathroom.... its a bathro

by clint 4y ago

Won't reply to all the strawmen at the bottom of your post, but I and lots of people don't care what people HEAR while we're using the bathroom.... its a bathroom for god's sake! Everything happening in there is normal and I'm not sure why you are imagining yourself to be "vulnerable" inside a locked private room.

newman8r 4y ago
This is probably an interesting way to group people - those who care vs those who don't. I tend to be very conscious of the noise I'm projecting - I always prefer for people who I can't see to not be able to hear me. I'm not just talking about the restroom - this also includes talking loudly in public, playing music loudly around others, etc. I feel it's like a privacy thing to me. I'd prefer people not to notice me unless it's intentional.
jasondigitized 4y ago
I’m willing to bet 50% of people in the U.S. get anxious when having to do their business in a public bathroom. Doing your business next to a stranger in Tevas with hobbit feet and a serious gastro intestinal issue is nightmare fuel for me.
- outsidetheparty 4y ago
  It's funny how people tend to assume their own characteristics are global phenomena, or at least common; isn't it? Looks like the actual number is somewhere closer to 2.8% - 16.4% of people [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28554367/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28554367/]. (This study was specifically about "shy bladder" but that seems a pretty close proxy)
  - jasondigitized 4y ago
    Not shy bladder at all. I’ll let it rip. Doesn’t mean I or others enjoy the experience.
  - rco8786 4y ago
    Disagree that it's a close proxy. Not being able to perform at all is much different than feeling uncomfortable about people hearing you do said deed.
    - outsidetheparty 4y ago
      Fair enough. The comment I was responding to characterized pooping next to a stranger as "nightmare fuel;" perhaps I over-interpreted that.
- yurishimo 4y ago
  I’m one of these people. Luckily as a man, I don’t mind taking a whiz in a public restroom, even if it’s disgusting, but id almost rather have an accident in my car than stop and take a #2 in a nasty gas station restroom. My bathroom at home is a sanctuary and I never take it for granted.
  - gallamine 4y ago
    I once had a buddy walk up behind me while I was at a urinal and smack the back of my head - one of the most infuriating things ever. Ever since I'm hyper aware of people behind me at the urinal.
    - yurishimo 4y ago
      I probably would have pee’d on him. His fault for surprising me whilst mid-piss.
zdragnar 4y ago
Though I human, I prefer my coworkers think I am a robot.
rco8786 4y ago
> I'm not sure why you are imagining yourself to be "vulnerable" inside a locked private room. The whole reason we all agree that having a locked room to do your business in is ideal is because it's such a vulnerable position to be in. We feel better about being in a locked room, but you can never get your basic instincts to not feel vulnerable when you're mid defecation/mid urination. It's animalistic and can never go away. Quite literally, knowing people can hear us take a dump triggers survival instincts because our brains think we could be alerting predators to our whereabouts while we're not in a position to run or fight
- throwaway675309 4y ago
  I mean it's fun to speculate but you're not really providing any concrete evidence. I think you're speaking from a purely personal perspective, and so in the same spirit, I metaphorically and literally don't give a shit what unholy sounds emanate from my stall when I am taking care of business. I think it's also highly dependent on your cultural background and upbringing.
  - rco8786 4y ago
    https://www.sjaakvandergeest.socsci.uva.nl/pdf/privacy/handbook-privacy_2018.pdf https://www.sjaakvandergeest.socsci.uva.nl/pdf/privacy/handb...
- autoexec 4y ago
  > It's animalistic and can never go away. I'm not sure that's true. Given enough time it could change. I'm just not sure why we'd want it to. I'm perfectly content to leave some things a mystery and that includes what anyone else is doing in the bathroom.
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by clint 4y ago

newman8r 4y ago

This is probably an interesting way to group people - those who care vs those who don't. I tend to be very conscious of the noise I'm projecting - I always prefer for people who I can't see to not be able to hear me. I'm not just talking about the restroom - this also includes talking loudly in public, playing music loudly around others, etc. I feel it's like a privacy thing to me. I'd prefer people not to notice me unless it's intentional.

jasondigitized 4y ago

I’m willing to bet 50% of people in the U.S. get anxious when having to do their business in a public bathroom. Doing your business next to a stranger in Tevas with hobbit feet and a serious gastro intestinal issue is nightmare fuel for me.

outsidetheparty 4y ago
It's funny how people tend to assume their own characteristics are global phenomena, or at least common; isn't it? Looks like the actual number is somewhere closer to 2.8% - 16.4% of people [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28554367/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28554367/]. (This study was specifically about "shy bladder" but that seems a pretty close proxy)
- jasondigitized 4y ago
  Not shy bladder at all. I’ll let it rip. Doesn’t mean I or others enjoy the experience.
- rco8786 4y ago
  Disagree that it's a close proxy. Not being able to perform at all is much different than feeling uncomfortable about people hearing you do said deed.
  - outsidetheparty 4y ago
    Fair enough. The comment I was responding to characterized pooping next to a stranger as "nightmare fuel;" perhaps I over-interpreted that.
yurishimo 4y ago
I’m one of these people. Luckily as a man, I don’t mind taking a whiz in a public restroom, even if it’s disgusting, but id almost rather have an accident in my car than stop and take a #2 in a nasty gas station restroom. My bathroom at home is a sanctuary and I never take it for granted.
- gallamine 4y ago
  I once had a buddy walk up behind me while I was at a urinal and smack the back of my head - one of the most infuriating things ever. Ever since I'm hyper aware of people behind me at the urinal.
  - yurishimo 4y ago
    I probably would have pee’d on him. His fault for surprising me whilst mid-piss.

zdragnar 4y ago

Though I human, I prefer my coworkers think I am a robot.

rco8786 4y ago

> I'm not sure why you are imagining yourself to be "vulnerable" inside a locked private room. The whole reason we all agree that having a locked room to do your business in is ideal is because it's such a vulnerable position to be in. We feel better about being in a locked room, but you can never get your basic instincts to not feel vulnerable when you're mid defecation/mid urination. It's animalistic and can never go away. Quite literally, knowing people can hear us take a dump triggers survival instincts because our brains think we could be alerting predators to our whereabouts while we're not in a position to run or fight

throwaway675309 4y ago
I mean it's fun to speculate but you're not really providing any concrete evidence. I think you're speaking from a purely personal perspective, and so in the same spirit, I metaphorically and literally don't give a shit what unholy sounds emanate from my stall when I am taking care of business. I think it's also highly dependent on your cultural background and upbringing.
- rco8786 4y ago
  https://www.sjaakvandergeest.socsci.uva.nl/pdf/privacy/handbook-privacy_2018.pdf https://www.sjaakvandergeest.socsci.uva.nl/pdf/privacy/handb...
autoexec 4y ago
> It's animalistic and can never go away. I'm not sure that's true. Given enough time it could change. I'm just not sure why we'd want it to. I'm perfectly content to leave some things a mystery and that includes what anyone else is doing in the bathroom.

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