Well...I also have not worked anywhere that you personally got paged more than maybe once or twice a year, and that any after hour pages led to the expectation

Well...I also have not worked anywhere that you personally got paged more than maybe once or twice a year, and that any after hour pages led to the expectation you'd take twice that amount of time off the next day, and if it was more than a couple hours, or interrupted your sleep, you'd take the full day off. And those were not FAANG. So I think it's also the culture and expectations, and it's not ludicrously impossible to get. It just requires, getting back to the topic, a reasonable manager who understands the negative effects of getting paged.