> I would argue that hate just like love is a choice you make. And I would argue that's a simplistic way of looking at something massively complicated. I woul

> I would argue that hate just like love is a choice you make. And I would argue that's a simplistic way of looking at something massively complicated. I would say that you have boiled "hate" down to something facile that can be solved with just "being the bigger person" and getting over yourself, when the reality is that's not going to work for a lot of people. Guess what - I have first-hand experience of people trying to stay together and do the right thing for the children, and to move past it. They were both miserable for most of the time they were doing this, and so was everyone else around them. > If you have the emotional capacity to choose to love and respect your partner instead of hating them or a way to regain that capacity Right, and for those that don't, or those that try and fail? Your solution of "just stop hating each other" is wishful thinking. And to get back to the whole point of the thread, not a good reason to force people to stay together, and a perfectly valid reason to get divorced. You want the best outcome for the kids, cooping two adults up together in a house who can't stand the sight of each other is not a way to achieve that. Can some people move past hating each other? Probably. That doesn't mean it's good for the kids if society tries to force everyone to do that.