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43, diagnosed one year ago. Let me add some items of my own to your very relatable list. - Growing up, it took me longer than the average to pick up social rul
by otikik 5y ago
43, diagnosed one year ago. Let me add some items of my own to your very relatable list.
- Growing up, it took me longer than the average to pick up social rules and customs "by mere contact". As a result I didn't make any friends at all during school, and only 3 at highschool. I only started "growing out of it" when I reached University. I still struggle with some social norms. I am a bit of a people pleaser, and I avoid conflict too much.
- Keeping in touch with those few friends and even my own family is something I struggle with a lot - "Out of sight, out of mind" is more literal. I have to "plan" keeping in contact with people, including my mum.
- I have "Time blindness". Time has an immaterial quality for everyone, but in my case it is quite literal. I was often late, and never can tell how much time things take. I need to use a physical object, like an agenda, to transform daily planning into "a puzzle", something I can "solve" with spatial skills. I must have my agenda open in front of me all the time.
- sph 5y agoI don't know if the first one is strictly ADHD, sounds a bit more autism. Personally, I'm excellent at social cues and body language, far too much even. I'm really good at empathy, but sadly I'm very much an introvert. Everything else is the same as me. I have unconsciously learned to use anxiety to be on time. Any time I have something major planned the next day, I can't sleep. I am anxious all day until the moment comes, and then I ease up.
- otikik 5y agoFirst of all, I am not a mental health professional, so I might be wrong here. My understanding is that ADHD manifests itself with a collection of symptoms and degrees. You get diagnosed when you reach a certain threshold of all the possible ones. The inattentive aspect, which is the one I predominantly have, seems to have "missing social cues" on its list of symptoms. There's also the indirect problem of children avoiding ADHD children and them getting less social practice as a result. This might be relevant https://www.foothillsacademy.org/community/articles/adhd-social-skills https://www.foothillsacademy.org/community/articles/adhd-soc...
- throw0101a 5y ago> - Keeping in touch with those few friends and even my own family is something I struggle with a lot - "Out of sight, out of mind" is more literal. I have to "plan" keeping in contact with people, including my mum. A system discussed a few weeks ago: * https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=30329475 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=30329475 Doing a search for "personal CRM" also brings up a number of results.
- ajolly 5y agoI hate that Facebook removed their personal API because I can no longer use it to remind me to message people if I haven't messaged them in x amount of months.