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Good point, it's indeed common for couples to get married when having children. Still, I think what's helping ensure commitment in that case are the children,
by tsupiroti 4y ago
Good point, it's indeed common for couples to get married when having children.
Still, I think what's helping ensure commitment in that case are the children, rather than the marriage. It's much easier for a married childless couple to split up than for an unmarried couple that has children.
- mduerksen 4y agoIt is quite debatable if children actually stabilize marriages (I know a lot of counterexamples). I would argue exactly the other way around: A lasting marriage is not itself the goal (though certainly nice to grow old together), but serves the purpose of raising offspring - that's what counts for every species that has survived.
- tsupiroti 4y agoI agree children can cause problems in relationships. My point was more that they're a very strong reason against splitting up.
- mensetmanusman 4y ago“ I think what's helping ensure commitment in that case are the children, rather than the marriage. ” This is the luxury belief. It feels true, it doesn’t conflict with secular values, but all the research points to it being false…