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If you're struggling financially, wouldn't that be a reason to stay together, rather than break up/divorce? If you break up/divorce you have to pay for 2 apartm
by Thorrez 5y ago
If you're struggling financially, wouldn't that be a reason to stay together, rather than break up/divorce? If you break up/divorce you have to pay for 2 apartments rather than 1.
So a cohabiting couple too poor to afford a wedding might also be too poor to break up. So the bias might be in the opposite direction than you think.
- oneoff786 5y agoI suspect this doesn’t hold. An unhealthy relationship with financial stress isn’t likely to foster cooperative behavior. The friends I’ve had in bad relationships almost always saw one or both of them hiding money and/or “stealing” from the communal account.
- hef19898 5y agoFinancial insecurity is huge stress factor, and constant stress and uncertainty are a huge strain on every relationship.
- Spooky23 5y agoYes, but if you’re poor enough, the state chips in. In general, it’s a wash.
- 6510 5y agoThere is a lot of shame in not being able to take care of yourself even if no one blames you. So you cant buy flowers - ever, cant take her out - ever, cant take her on vacation - ever, cant buy a gift, not even on her birthday - ever. Sometimes there is food! That is suppose to be it? Not everyone is stupid enough to go ahead and have kids at that point. Renting your own room is required to be an angry asshole who failed at life on your own for a while - or indefinitely.
- pyuser583 5y agoIt can be both. I’ve known people who were driven to divorce by poverty related issues (“my husband is terrible with money and works at McDonalds”), but couldn’t divorce right away because they couldn’t afford it. Those in extreme poverty have to save up.