My parents no longer being married did nothing to me. Zero. My parents trying to get me to hate the other parent caused severe damage and was entirely ineffect

My parents no longer being married did nothing to me. Zero. My parents trying to get me to hate the other parent caused severe damage and was entirely ineffective at its goal. Not being able to spend much time with one of my parents, especially the one with the most life survival skills was bad. I had a relative that could have stood in, but they declined to really be there regularly. An amicable divorce with some mitigation of the parenting structure would have turned out just fine. And, maybe part of that would have been achieved with an earlier divorce.