Sometimes it’s not a contradiction, but our old friend nuance. eg Ideally, everyone should learn to take a literal or figurative punch to the face, shrug it of

Sometimes it’s not a contradiction, but our old friend nuance. eg Ideally, everyone should learn to take a literal or figurative punch to the face, shrug it off and refocus. However, that doesn’t mean that someone can’t be severely traumatized or injured by a single punch to the face. The context matters. So the ideal of ‘just learn to take it and toughen up’ is flawed because of the very real effects of trauma. And the ideal of ‘no one should ever get punched in the face’ is flawed if we never train ourselves for hardship. It can be really unintuitive to figure out the middle path between the two. Sometimes it should be obvious. Stuff like, kids should be made active enough to occasionally scrape their knee, but sanding a scrape into your kids knee is horrible abuse.