Whatever works for you, but be aware your experience might not generalise to the whole population. I'm not going to say "everyone's situation is different", the

Whatever works for you, but be aware your experience might not generalise to the whole population. I'm not going to say "everyone's situation is different", there are more than seven billion of us, I suspect our experiences fall in to approximately a few broad categories, My parents stayed together much longer the should have. One day, much later, my mother cried and apologised that she hadn't left my father 13 years earlier. My father was a massive piece of shit, the lung cancer couldn't have taken him soon. We wouldn't have been floating between two houses, rather we would have had one stable home. I don't believe the people arguing for divorce in some situations are saying "divorce doesn't suck", but there's at least some chance it might be better than the alternative.