I was a child of divorced parents. It seems logical that which is 'better' depends on just how irreconcilable the differences are, relative to the parents in qu

I was a child of divorced parents. It seems logical that which is 'better' depends on just how irreconcilable the differences are, relative to the parents in question. I mean, it seems staying together could only work if the parents had small changes to make, simply because people mostly don't make big changes to themselves, at all. My mother sat my 2 sibs and I down before and asked for our thoughts/feelings, and we all said "Do it" without hesitation or doubt. In my case, we were all clearly worse off materially after. I think we kids were a little better off mentally and emotionally, but a large component of that is that my mother would have continued attempting suicide otherwise, and it's possible she might have succeeded. It's useless to speculate about whether they could have stayed together if they'd had the capacity to put others above themselves, because they didn't have it, and no amount of counseling could have endowed them with it.