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Probably because relationships (and opinions) nowadays are becoming more and more like fashion accessories - similar to shoes and sun glasses - stuff to put on

by yobbo 5y ago

Probably because relationships (and opinions) nowadays are becoming more and more like fashion accessories - similar to shoes and sun glasses - stuff to put on instagram. You need the right "optics and sonics" to be a viable and valuable friend. Otherwise you are just an awkward country cousin without any connections that need excuses to made whenever in civilised company. It seems like people have taken the saying "you become like the five people closest to you" to heart, but so few people today are desirable role models for anyone.

nine76evil 5y ago
Our personalities have become commodities.
Centigonal 5y ago
That's a really cynical way to see relationships, and I hope it's not becoming more popular. It reminds me of Mean Girls. I feel like the natural progression for communities where this pattern occurs is for the misfits to band together and form a counterculture.
- routerl 5y ago
  > the misfits to band together and form a counterculture. They do, but they do it online, and across the entire globe, rather than by finding common cause with other local misfits, which leads to more social isolation, and the wheel keeps spinning.
atoav 5y ago
I think it is more like a cold war where the other that you open yourself towards could destroy you by putting the wrong picture or video online at any moment. Having that trust in an other person can be quite difficult in an generation where everything is, and has to be on social media.
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Dracophoenix 5y ago
Relationships have historically been fashion accessories. Women were once considered legal property for a father to leverage in exchange for access to his son-in-law's wealth. Love is a selfish pursuit. The vast majority of people, historically and in modern times, didn't pursue a relationship out of the goodness of their heart.
- FranzFerdiNaN 5y ago
  This is not at all how it worked in the past. The elite might trade women around, but that’s such a tiny part of the human population that it’s not at all representative for how the average person lived.
  - maneesh 5y ago
    Throughout history — until even today in fact - the majority of marriages have been arranged. “According to a 2012 study by Statistic Brain, 53.25% of marriages are arranged worldwide. The global divorce rate for arranged marriages was 6.3%” http://www.statisticbrain.com/arranged-marriage-statistics/ http://www.statisticbrain.com/arranged-marriage-statistics/

by yobbo 5y ago

nine76evil 5y ago

Our personalities have become commodities.

Centigonal 5y ago

That's a really cynical way to see relationships, and I hope it's not becoming more popular. It reminds me of Mean Girls. I feel like the natural progression for communities where this pattern occurs is for the misfits to band together and form a counterculture.

routerl 5y ago
> the misfits to band together and form a counterculture. They do, but they do it online, and across the entire globe, rather than by finding common cause with other local misfits, which leads to more social isolation, and the wheel keeps spinning.

atoav 5y ago

I think it is more like a cold war where the other that you open yourself towards could destroy you by putting the wrong picture or video online at any moment. Having that trust in an other person can be quite difficult in an generation where everything is, and has to be on social media.

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Dracophoenix 5y ago

Relationships have historically been fashion accessories. Women were once considered legal property for a father to leverage in exchange for access to his son-in-law's wealth. Love is a selfish pursuit. The vast majority of people, historically and in modern times, didn't pursue a relationship out of the goodness of their heart.

FranzFerdiNaN 5y ago
This is not at all how it worked in the past. The elite might trade women around, but that’s such a tiny part of the human population that it’s not at all representative for how the average person lived.
- maneesh 5y ago
  Throughout history — until even today in fact - the majority of marriages have been arranged. “According to a 2012 study by Statistic Brain, 53.25% of marriages are arranged worldwide. The global divorce rate for arranged marriages was 6.3%” http://www.statisticbrain.com/arranged-marriage-statistics/ http://www.statisticbrain.com/arranged-marriage-statistics/