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I had my kids young. I’m an empty nester at 45, and I happen to be dipping my toe into the dating pool for the first time in a very long time. Looking through
by jnwatson 5y ago
I had my kids young. I’m an empty nester at 45, and I happen to be dipping my toe into the dating pool for the first time in a very long time. Looking through online dating profiles, I’m genuinely surprised how many folks want to have children into their late 40s.
Ignoring the medical risks, this throws the timing of everything off. A former coworker is paying off his kids’ student loans in retirement.
My grandmother was 47 when she had my mother. I saw my mother struggle to care for her aging mother while at the same time raising children.
- Workaccount2 5y agoIt's not surprising, it's an economic consequence. At 25 I couldn't even afford to properly care for myself, much less a kid. At 30 it would have been difficult with lots of corner cutting. At 35 its viable-ish, but now I'm getting up there...
- pushrax 5y agoAll else equal, having child related expenses later in life rather than earlier will only leave you richer due to time value of money. Assuming you plan ahead and save.
- jnwatson 5y agoThere’s practically nothing you can buy to get more time with your grandchildren.
- candiddevmike 5y agoI can't imagine having biological kids that late in life, however becoming a foster/adoption parent is always possible and there's always a need for more of them.
- vwcx 5y agoIn some parts of the world, one can still celebrate their 40th birthday with their grandparents and their grandkids at the same party.
- rayiner 5y agoAlso, it limits your ability to enjoy your grandkids. My oldest will be out of the house by the time we’re 44/45, and the kids have been informed they have until 27 before I call the Bangladeshi matchmaker. God willing if I life to the normal life expectancy I’ll see my great grands.