> Why can't these people shrug it off? Because humans are simply not wired to be able to shrug off unlimited amounts of verbal or physical abuse. > Just by ma

> Why can't these people shrug it off? Because humans are simply not wired to be able to shrug off unlimited amounts of verbal or physical abuse. > Just by math everyone can be expected to meet abusive people during their lifetime. In broader adult life, you have much more control over your interactions. In school, a classmate is your classmate, pretty much whether you like it or not. You might be forced to, e.g., sit next to them, change in the same locker room as them, etc. (There are some ways around this, such as transfers & home-schooling, but they take time, require parents who can be that involved — which is hard if they, e.g., working too many jobs to make ends meet — and from the child's view, risks backfiring.)