10 ms·

I think he's talking about later in life, middle aged or later. It is clear that kids have much less maturity and ways to deal with things and need help when an

I think he's talking about later in life, middle aged or later. It is clear that kids have much less maturity and ways to deal with things and need help when an adult usually does not. Even if they could, they have a lot less options to do anything by themselves, for example they can't just quit and move away (leaving aside that as an adult you still need a certain level of money to do that). Also, in all those discussions I think it would be safe to assume "statistically speaking" unless being able to show one individual counter-example proves or disproves a point being discussed. Usually statements are not made under the assumption to be valid for every single person unless it is explicit. (Edited)

kayodelycaon 5y ago
A lot of this carried over into adulthood for me. I'm still uncovering traumatic things from my childhood that are affecting me in ways I wasn't aware of.
phkahler 5y ago
PTSD doesn't just shrug off. If you follow the EMDR camp, it's due to experiences that have not been "properly" processed and stored due to the level of emotional association at the time. It can be "unstuck" and filed away but it's not always easy and not something one "just does". The lack of understanding around this in some of the comments is really eye opening to me.
- nosianu 5y ago
  > The lack of understanding around this in some of the comments is really eye opening to me. I had my own physical bullying experiences in school, fortunately nothing constant. There was no way to get any help either (or maybe my uneducated and inexperienced kid brain just did not know any better), so I know the feeling of helplessness at least. But you mention PTSD, which is really really severe. As I said, are we talking about some extreme cases here? How frequent are those? The points made was as I see it for much less severe than "PTSD stage" things. When you get to PTSD it's criminal level and I don't think that this is what those people you claim have "lack of understanding" assumed was what we were talking about. I certainly didn't, and I still don't. I think extreme cases are something else.

kayodelycaon 5y ago

A lot of this carried over into adulthood for me. I'm still uncovering traumatic things from my childhood that are affecting me in ways I wasn't aware of.

phkahler 5y ago

PTSD doesn't just shrug off. If you follow the EMDR camp, it's due to experiences that have not been "properly" processed and stored due to the level of emotional association at the time. It can be "unstuck" and filed away but it's not always easy and not something one "just does". The lack of understanding around this in some of the comments is really eye opening to me.

nosianu 5y ago
> The lack of understanding around this in some of the comments is really eye opening to me. I had my own physical bullying experiences in school, fortunately nothing constant. There was no way to get any help either (or maybe my uneducated and inexperienced kid brain just did not know any better), so I know the feeling of helplessness at least. But you mention PTSD, which is really really severe. As I said, are we talking about some extreme cases here? How frequent are those? The points made was as I see it for much less severe than "PTSD stage" things. When you get to PTSD it's criminal level and I don't think that this is what those people you claim have "lack of understanding" assumed was what we were talking about. I certainly didn't, and I still don't. I think extreme cases are something else.