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> if we can also normalize accepting that emotional pain and injury is no less serious than physical injury they are not. they are in fact worse. I suffered

> if we can also normalize accepting that emotional pain and injury is no less serious than physical injury they are not. they are in fact worse. I suffered so many physical injuries when I was a kid that I stopped counting them, none of them traumatized me. They are now good stories to tell. On the other hand emotional pain was so unbearable that there are people I still don't talk to 35 years later, because I don't want to remember. You know why they are so terrible? Because people wanted to "share the pain" and made a big fuss about it and forced me to "confront my feelings" "live the pain" and all that hippie stuff, that only made it worse and gave me the idea that suffering was something you couldn't escape from. Now that I am a full grown up adult, I'm still sometimes scared by having the feeling of feeling something. If people could just normalize the fact that everything pass and everything goes away with time (except of course real traumas, like war or being abused) kids would realize that there'll be a day when they will stand up for themselves and the high school bully did a really bad job at ruining your life, there are so many worse things in life, that you kinda admire how stupid they were. > than some people can't just "walk off" a broken ankle. actually, most of the times you can walk off a broken ankle. Typically, a minor ankle fracture won't prevent you from walking.

seattle_spring 5y ago
It's disappointing but not unexpected to see your comment downvoted. There's a reason CPTSD is considered even more difficult to treat than PTSD.
- peoplefromibiza 5y ago
  > It's disappointing but not unexpected to see your comment downvoted. There's a reason CPTSD is considered even more difficult to treat than PTSD. As you have correctly pointed out: disappointing but not unexpected. I'm actually happy, it means that usually for people their worse experiences are high school bullies or broken ankles. It's a good thing. I wish it was true for everybody.
  - seattle_spring 5y ago
    The severity of bullying is a spectrum, and some of it can ruin someone for life. Claiming it's good because other things can be worse is another example of the fallacy of relative privation, and is not really a valid argument.
    - peoplefromibiza 5y ago
      > The severity of bullying is a spectrum we are talking about school bullying The power imbalance of school bullying usually solves itself with age (like in a year or two). > and some of it can ruin someone for life yeah, it happens, rarely but it happens. that's why I specifically wrote "except of course real traumas, like war or being abused" > it's good because other things can be worse it's good if that's the worst people usually suffer. Never said it's good in absolute.

seattle_spring 5y ago

It's disappointing but not unexpected to see your comment downvoted. There's a reason CPTSD is considered even more difficult to treat than PTSD.

peoplefromibiza 5y ago
> It's disappointing but not unexpected to see your comment downvoted. There's a reason CPTSD is considered even more difficult to treat than PTSD. As you have correctly pointed out: disappointing but not unexpected. I'm actually happy, it means that usually for people their worse experiences are high school bullies or broken ankles. It's a good thing. I wish it was true for everybody.
- seattle_spring 5y ago
  The severity of bullying is a spectrum, and some of it can ruin someone for life. Claiming it's good because other things can be worse is another example of the fallacy of relative privation, and is not really a valid argument.
  - peoplefromibiza 5y ago
    > The severity of bullying is a spectrum we are talking about school bullying The power imbalance of school bullying usually solves itself with age (like in a year or two). > and some of it can ruin someone for life yeah, it happens, rarely but it happens. that's why I specifically wrote "except of course real traumas, like war or being abused" > it's good because other things can be worse it's good if that's the worst people usually suffer. Never said it's good in absolute.