I'm going to guess you're not in a long term relationship here. In the best possible way, I've not made a life-altering decision like those you describe comple

I'm going to guess you're not in a long term relationship here. In the best possible way, I've not made a life-altering decision like those you describe completely on my own in over a decade. Nor has my partner. Everything is compromise, working and talking through things. It can take years to happen, can sometimes make up our minds in hours. Big deal stuff, like which (often war-torn) country we'll live in next. Funniest thing, the dog was the biggest change. Now a major factor in all big life plans. Guess it's more so if you have kids. If none of that's influencing your planning, then go for the long shots. They'll be harder to take when you're making decisions that involve others directly.