I get what you mean with my second one - but the first one was meant at honest advise and a rule of thumb. Text can make words appear harsher than they're meant

I get what you mean with my second one - but the first one was meant at honest advise and a rule of thumb. Text can make words appear harsher than they're meant at times. And well, OP posted it as an "Ask HN" but their followup replies make it quite clear that they're not about genuinely understanding or finding a way to make it work but about venting, which is not what "Ask HN" is for. > Being all like "Fuck you, don't use it then" adds nothing to the conversation. This is really not what I'm saying. Note there are three points up there, not two.