First step you already made - you ask these questions, and you question yourself if you do well. You're way ahead of some other people (see my other comment in

First step you already made - you ask these questions, and you question yourself if you do well. You're way ahead of some other people (see my other comment in this thread about estranged parents). The fact that you try to understand, that you're able to conceive that you might do something wrong, even if not on purpose, puts you miles ahead in being a good parent. Just try to be aware of your emotions, how you talk with your children, and that you're able to understand what they're trying to tell you (this is the most important IMO). Do that, and everything else will work out. Source: Raised by family of high-functioning narcissists.