I've been in socially-similar situations to this one, and I suspect it went a bit like this: Person says "don't do this thing, it will hurt me." Group says, "n

I've been in socially-similar situations to this one, and I suspect it went a bit like this: Person says "don't do this thing, it will hurt me." Group says, "no it won't," or otherwise dismisses/forgets. Group does the thing. Person is injured, predictably, and takes protective/evasive actions. Group or subset of group becomes offended that person has taken protective/evasive actions, correctly believing actions to implicate the group's bad behavior. Group or subset of group smears their victim, amplifies or otherwise doubles-down on their initial misunderstanding or neglect of person's request not to injure them.