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Hahaha, no it does not. I joined my current place of work a little bit before another new hire, an attractive blonde woman. Nobody gave a fuck about me, I had t

Hahaha, no it does not. I joined my current place of work a little bit before another new hire, an attractive blonde woman. Nobody gave a fuck about me, I had to walk around and actively introduce myself and try to make friends, whereas she had a literal stream of dudes visiting her office the first week. I made a joke about this once to her and she rolled her eyes and said it was really annoying, but it did help her get up to speed very quickly on the whose-who and what their roles were. To this day her network is much bigger than mine. I guess you could argue that this happened because she's hot and not because she's a woman or something like that. My point is corporate environments are nowhere near equalizing.

AyyWS 5y ago
Here's the real life flip-side from someone I know very well. She was propositioned by her creepy, married supply chain manager. Didn't report to HR. When layoffs came around her name was pulled most likely because her creepy manager was embarrassed. Other insecure women in the office viewed her as a threat and tried to silence or embarrass her. Oh yeah, she also got an award from the supply chain VP for a perfect year of all on time deliveries (which never happens), but was still laid off...
gunfighthacksaw 5y ago
I think a situation like this can be similar to the kind/nice distinction. Your hot coworker may never get the respect (or have the chance to earn it) because people only seek them out for their surface level traits and work-irrelevant things like having access to attractive women. The behaviour is not hard to reign in either: I work with a few very attractive women with whom I have great chemistry and could probably lure into long conversations and yes, build subtle sexual tension. However, it’s way more mutually beneficial that our relationship is based around their competence in engineering, or HR, or sales. As you pointed out, the easy route for many men is to baby or pester such women, which can even kill a company if it gets too pathological. I’ve even seen well meaning male personalities at work cut off or talk over the more soft spoken (and IMO smarter) women. I actively try to fight that tendency when I can- without being imposing- and see surprise/appreciation when I do so.

AyyWS 5y ago

Here's the real life flip-side from someone I know very well. She was propositioned by her creepy, married supply chain manager. Didn't report to HR. When layoffs came around her name was pulled most likely because her creepy manager was embarrassed. Other insecure women in the office viewed her as a threat and tried to silence or embarrass her. Oh yeah, she also got an award from the supply chain VP for a perfect year of all on time deliveries (which never happens), but was still laid off...

gunfighthacksaw 5y ago

I think a situation like this can be similar to the kind/nice distinction. Your hot coworker may never get the respect (or have the chance to earn it) because people only seek them out for their surface level traits and work-irrelevant things like having access to attractive women. The behaviour is not hard to reign in either: I work with a few very attractive women with whom I have great chemistry and could probably lure into long conversations and yes, build subtle sexual tension. However, it’s way more mutually beneficial that our relationship is based around their competence in engineering, or HR, or sales. As you pointed out, the easy route for many men is to baby or pester such women, which can even kill a company if it gets too pathological. I’ve even seen well meaning male personalities at work cut off or talk over the more soft spoken (and IMO smarter) women. I actively try to fight that tendency when I can- without being imposing- and see surprise/appreciation when I do so.