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I've been in the Bay Area for the past decade, mostly working for health tech startups. It's a weird world that I'm ready to fully divorce myself from. There's
by reureu 5y ago
I've been in the Bay Area for the past decade, mostly working for health tech startups. It's a weird world that I'm ready to fully divorce myself from.
There's a lot of arrogance, much of it unjustified. I've seen a lot of corruption or incompetence (sometimes it's hard to tell the difference). There are grand visions that get pitched that are so out of touch -- I can't tell if we need "forward thinkers" to be dreaming of moon shots, or if they're just full on delusional. There can be a lot of backstabbing and politics within organizations. Sure, that all happens outside of SV too, but I've never experienced it quite on this scale.
That said, the Bay Area also attracts a specific type of person that can be really amazing to work with. People who are smart, want to change the world, and unbounded in how they approach problems. I've found periods of my time here to be really amazing-- working with smart and driven people, going to meetups to hear from developers building the packages that I use, and enjoying the culture scene in SF. Often, I've found that golden period to last for 6-18 months before the startup has layoffs, or a new "commercialization" officer comes in and makes things horrible, or we hire one too many Stanford MBAs.
So, for me, it's been an exhausting boom-bust cycle of working on amazing things, followed by the company growing toxic, then I leave and a few years later that company implodes in scandal. If you do that cycle enough times, you meet a core group of people that you can just follow around to different companies.
In the background, though, it's really difficult to afford to buy a house. Dating has been brutal because it feels like everyone is trying to "date up". Homelessness and other social justice issues pervade the Bay Area and seem to only be getting worse. Fire season is approaching 6 months long.
I love it here but, personally, I think I'm ready to switch back to being a tourist instead of a local.
- strikelaserclaw 5y agoI think best balance is living elsewhere but having good ties to the bay area. I work remotely for a bay area company and love it when i visit there (10-15 times a year).
- hipereal 5y agoI'm realizing I should have prompted comments about how remote dynamics have impacted life out here. Any observations or takes on how the pandemic and remote culture have changed relationships and culture are welcome!
- ams92 5y agoI have only heard stories of the dating scene anecdotally, since I moved here with a partner. But it sounds like there is a weird dynamic where there is a large gender imbalance but women still feel like there aren't any acceptable options for them. It's a paralysis by choice type of thing.
- cultofmetatron 5y agoDating is brutal for guys. I lefts after 4 years of being single and found myself in a relationship within a month.
- throwawaybbq1 5y agoI moved from the Bay area to NYC and met my now wife after less than a month. I wish I stayed in the Bay area back then (circa 2010) .. I likely would have hit gold at least once by now. Yet ... the toil continues.