I think at this stage we're stuck with information that's not clearly provided, and only he can address them. However: > Hundreds, maybe thousands of times, my

I think at this stage we're stuck with information that's not clearly provided, and only he can address them. However: > Hundreds, maybe thousands of times, my wife tried to communicate that something was wrong. That something hurt. But that doesn’t make sense, I thought. I’m not trying to hurt her; therefore, she shouldn’t feel hurt. "Feeling hurt" is vague. Feeling hurt is different from being upset that he dismisses her complaints as unimportant nagging. Saying that she does not think he respects her as a result of his dismissals and that it is causing angst is much better. It's not clear from his essay if she ever said something like this. She likely didn't, because: > What I know for sure is that I had never connected putting a dish in the dishwasher with earning my wife’s respect. Had she said it, there would be no connection for him to make. > Yes she did, but he called it nagging and ignored it. This is not at all clear from the article. He's quite vague about the specifics of what she said.