I think there are two seperate issues. One is the dishes, and the divide of labour. Of course both of those should be equal in the way that both people deem fai

I think there are two seperate issues. One is the dishes, and the divide of labour. Of course both of those should be equal in the way that both people deem fair. The second is about respect and attitude and empathy towards your partner. It's about remembering that something is a bigger deal to your partner than it is to you. I like to look after my electronics so they'll last a long time, my wife is less careful with them and sometimes that bugs me, but I know that it's just not on her radar the same way its on mine. If it gets bad we discuss it and try and reach a compromise. The same goes for loads of other things too: if you go into it assuming the best of your partner not the worst you'll have a completely different relationship, and different discussions about how to solve the problem.