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It's worth it though. Consider the single male life. You will have no friends, because your male friends will all get wives and girlfriends, who will dissuade t

It's worth it though. Consider the single male life. You will have no friends, because your male friends will all get wives and girlfriends, who will dissuade them from hanging out with you, the weird bachelor. You will be seen as weird at work because all of your coworkers will be married, and people don't like an outlier. So the cost is high, so what? You could get divorced, lose half of everything you own, and have to pay ((your salary) - (her salary)) for the rest of your life. But what's the point of money if not to buy experiences?

frontman1988 5y ago
You can be unmarried and be in a relationship. Marriage is bondage. It's primarily a feminine desire of women to seek stability for their offsprings. Men are better off having multiple partners and having shorter relationships. Also as the weird bachelor you don't have to hang out with your coworkers, there is usually far more exciting company available.
- phendrenad2 5y ago
  I'm but a layman when it comes to interpersonal relationships, but it's my understanding that society puts pressure on people to get married. So while yes, in theory, you can be in a relationship and not married, in practice the social pressure will eventually push you, or, much more likely, the other person in the relationship, to want marriage. So your only recourse is to jump from relationship to relationship and break them off each time an ultimatum is reached. Breaking off relationships takes an emotional toll on people, so it's not a viable strategy for many people.
  - epicureanideal 5y ago
    So tell people you’re married and wear rings, but don’t throw away your life to make “society” happy.
- whateveracct 5y ago
  Marriage and love is the closest thing we can get to Faith in these secular times. If you can't have Faith in another person, there's probably something deeper wrong in your soul. That's not the end of the world, but it's worth exploring since it's low-hanging fruit for psychic development.
  - epicureanideal 5y ago
    Faith is not a rational basis for entering into a legally enforceable life altering contract.
    - whateveracct 5y ago
      If you insist on being able to fully rationalize your love, you are putting a pretty low ceiling on it.

frontman1988 5y ago

You can be unmarried and be in a relationship. Marriage is bondage. It's primarily a feminine desire of women to seek stability for their offsprings. Men are better off having multiple partners and having shorter relationships. Also as the weird bachelor you don't have to hang out with your coworkers, there is usually far more exciting company available.

phendrenad2 5y ago
I'm but a layman when it comes to interpersonal relationships, but it's my understanding that society puts pressure on people to get married. So while yes, in theory, you can be in a relationship and not married, in practice the social pressure will eventually push you, or, much more likely, the other person in the relationship, to want marriage. So your only recourse is to jump from relationship to relationship and break them off each time an ultimatum is reached. Breaking off relationships takes an emotional toll on people, so it's not a viable strategy for many people.
- epicureanideal 5y ago
  So tell people you’re married and wear rings, but don’t throw away your life to make “society” happy.
whateveracct 5y ago
Marriage and love is the closest thing we can get to Faith in these secular times. If you can't have Faith in another person, there's probably something deeper wrong in your soul. That's not the end of the world, but it's worth exploring since it's low-hanging fruit for psychic development.
- epicureanideal 5y ago
  Faith is not a rational basis for entering into a legally enforceable life altering contract.
  - whateveracct 5y ago
    If you insist on being able to fully rationalize your love, you are putting a pretty low ceiling on it.