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No she doesn't. She can just leave it there. She can leave her own glasses there, too. I'm having a hard time following the logic here. You agree that at some

No she doesn't. She can just leave it there. She can leave her own glasses there, too. I'm having a hard time following the logic here. You agree that at some point someone has to do the dishes, correct? We can assume based on the article that the wife is the one doing the dishes. So, that means every time the husband leaves dishes out he is making more work for his wife than if he just put his dishes in the dishwasher.

scarby2 5y ago
> We can assume based on the article that the wife is the one doing the dishes. So, that means every time the husband leaves dishes out he is making more work for his wife than if he just put his dishes in the dishwasher. Not necessarily the reasoning that it may be re-used is valid, also it may be that he would eventually put it in the dishwasher when the dishwasher is ready to be run. They could probably have come to an agreement that there was a specific spot that one singular glass can chill out (maybe not even in the kitchen).
- makeitdouble 5y ago
  > the dishwasher is ready to be run This might be difficult if he actually doesn’t understand when the dishwasher is ready to be run. As you say there are solutions accommodating both viewpoints, but it requires either good communication, so one side’s “expertise” is conveyed and internalized by the other. Or both sides being competent enough at all the parts involved in the discussion, but for that they’d need to take turns doing the task so they both have the same understanding of the situation (it also gives more credibility to each other’s claims). The article author choosing to put 100% of the efforts on the communication part was pretty convincing.
avidiax 5y ago
I think the logic here is that it does not: A) Need to be done now B) Need to be done by the husband C) A & B If it's just a water glass, I'd not be surprised if the husband intends to (or would) reuse it from its position on the counter, hence the entire dishwasher->cupboard cycle is superfluous from the husband's point of view.
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- brimble 5y ago
  > I'd not be surprised if the husband intends to (or would) reuse it from its position on the counter, hence the entire dishwasher->cupboard cycle is superfluous from the husband's point of view. Indeed. From the article: > I might want to use it again. I can tell you for a fact my dishwasher would run a whole lot less than 1/2 the time it does now, if I lived alone. Like, 1/4 as much. And that's just considering the wife, not the kids, like my usage solo vs. us before we had kids, and that's despite some things (dirty pots and pans) taking up more than 1/2 as much space as they do with two people. And it's not because I'd be doing more thorough hand-washing—I'd be doing a lot more re-using with a quick wipe, or maybe a brief run under the water, or even nothing at all (for, say, water cups). And yes, of course they'd stay on the counter (in the sink they'd get too gross to re-use, and they'd be in the way).

scarby2 5y ago

> We can assume based on the article that the wife is the one doing the dishes. So, that means every time the husband leaves dishes out he is making more work for his wife than if he just put his dishes in the dishwasher. Not necessarily the reasoning that it may be re-used is valid, also it may be that he would eventually put it in the dishwasher when the dishwasher is ready to be run. They could probably have come to an agreement that there was a specific spot that one singular glass can chill out (maybe not even in the kitchen).

makeitdouble 5y ago
> the dishwasher is ready to be run This might be difficult if he actually doesn’t understand when the dishwasher is ready to be run. As you say there are solutions accommodating both viewpoints, but it requires either good communication, so one side’s “expertise” is conveyed and internalized by the other. Or both sides being competent enough at all the parts involved in the discussion, but for that they’d need to take turns doing the task so they both have the same understanding of the situation (it also gives more credibility to each other’s claims). The article author choosing to put 100% of the efforts on the communication part was pretty convincing.

avidiax 5y ago

I think the logic here is that it does not: A) Need to be done now B) Need to be done by the husband C) A & B If it's just a water glass, I'd not be surprised if the husband intends to (or would) reuse it from its position on the counter, hence the entire dishwasher->cupboard cycle is superfluous from the husband's point of view.

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brimble 5y ago
> I'd not be surprised if the husband intends to (or would) reuse it from its position on the counter, hence the entire dishwasher->cupboard cycle is superfluous from the husband's point of view. Indeed. From the article: > I might want to use it again. I can tell you for a fact my dishwasher would run a whole lot less than 1/2 the time it does now, if I lived alone. Like, 1/4 as much. And that's just considering the wife, not the kids, like my usage solo vs. us before we had kids, and that's despite some things (dirty pots and pans) taking up more than 1/2 as much space as they do with two people. And it's not because I'd be doing more thorough hand-washing—I'd be doing a lot more re-using with a quick wipe, or maybe a brief run under the water, or even nothing at all (for, say, water cups). And yes, of course they'd stay on the counter (in the sink they'd get too gross to re-use, and they'd be in the way).