> a really good relationship is a 60/40 compromise, where both sides are struggling to be the 60 Perhaps I'm misreading your comment, but in my experience feel

> a really good relationship is a 60/40 compromise, where both sides are struggling to be the 60 Perhaps I'm misreading your comment, but in my experience feeling that you are doing most of the compromising can easily lead to resentment. Looking at things as a zero-sum game in which you are either compromising or getting things your way at a certain ratio is intrinsically competitive. In my opinion, both in marriage and in other social settings, relationships grow stronger when both feel that they are working together towards a common goal that satisfies all parties. This takes more work than a simple "your way or my way" approach, but it leads to all parties feeling seen and heard (because they are!).