I think the correct term here is "Cognitive labour" not "Emotional Labor" https://behavioralscientist.org/how-couples-share-cognitive-labor-and-why-it-matters/

I think the correct term here is "Cognitive labour" not "Emotional Labor" https://behavioralscientist.org/how-couples-share-cognitive-labor-and-why-it-matters/ https://behavioralscientist.org/how-couples-share-cognitive-... https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-load https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-lo... In other words if I actually do put the dishes away and take the trash out, _but only when asked to_; then my partner would be within their rights to tell me to grow up and do the necessary when it obviously needs doing, to stop being passive and share some of the "Cognitive labour" of worrying about the to-do-list. And if I don't even do it when asked ... well then I'm just adding to their cognitive labour.