This is the cause of the same fight over and over. One side is annoyed by something that is small and takes little time to do. The other side says why are you a

This is the cause of the same fight over and over. One side is annoyed by something that is small and takes little time to do. The other side says why are you annoyed by something that is so insignificant? The other side says if its insignificant to you why cant you do it? I've had some version of this argument 1000's of times and its ended a lot of relationships I had pre marriage.