The problem with the marriage was that he ignored all these things that were various levels of important to his wife rather than take the opportunity to show he

The problem with the marriage was that he ignored all these things that were various levels of important to his wife rather than take the opportunity to show her that she was important to him. Unequal division of labor could explain why the dishes were important to her; but that's not in the article and it's not what the article about. I think an unequal division of labor is largely orthogonal. In my failed marriage, I carried the greater burden by far. Yet it was my ex who had the thought "you don't do X, so you don't love me."