It’s not an unequal divide in emotional labor. He is doing what he sees fit, but she requires much more. If I’m content to live at level 10, so do level 5 wor

It’s not an unequal divide in emotional labor. He is doing what he sees fit, but she requires much more. If I’m content to live at level 10, so do level 5 work, I’m not being lazy. If she requires living at level 20, she will then need to do level 15 work. She will view him as slacking off, but in reality, he isn’t. They just have different standards. It is no more correct for her to force him to level 20 as for him to force her to level 10. It’s simply an incompatibility that they didn’t consider when marrying.