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If you are triggered by anything it is something you need to ask yourself why. And why you are with that person then, if they are triggering you. With some (mi
by ay 4y ago
If you are triggered by anything it is something you need to ask yourself why. And why you are with that person then, if they are triggering you.
With some (minor) exceptions, what people are getting in their relationships is at least 50% result of their own choices, and not owning that only prolongs the effects.
- AlwaysRock 4y agoI cant think of worse relationship advise than be with someone who never triggers a negative response in you.
- ay 4y agoSome people are into shibari. And some aren’t. And both are okay. Edit-add: also, I think “being with a person who never triggers a negative response in you” is just plain impossible. On some days I trigger a negative response with myself :-) But based on my limited experience of two 10+ years relationships, I can say life is so much easier and fun when you have less things to disagree about. But I also acknowledge that this is how I am wired - for some, fights are stimulating. Hence my initial reply with shibari. There exist rather interesting pathways to happiness.
- spadros 4y agoWhat? You want more negative experiences? That defines a good relationship for you? I can’t think of a better goal than to be with somebody so compatible that you have minimal friction and minimal issues.
- AlwaysRock 4y agoSure. Minimal. But if you rule people out for any amount of conflict then you will never be in a relationship long term. My wife and I do not argue often but it does happen.