I appreciate that you were not meaning to come across that way, which is why I was careful not to call _you_ insensitive etc. All advice comes from a place of p

I appreciate that you were not meaning to come across that way, which is why I was careful not to call _you_ insensitive etc. All advice comes from a place of personal and learned/observed experiences. To assume this person is not active in the queer/trans community is also without merit. I am not saying it is or what intended to be a character assassination. Two points, the first is that it is still an assumption, and I realize it is something that aligns with internalized homophobia but it is still more fair to say "sounds like" rather than "is". The other point is that you are addressing a community that may not be familiar with terminology, usages and the such within the queer/trans/+ community. It isn't a fault of the reader, they can only go by what they have heard/experienced. For a vast majority of people who may be reading this, being called homophobic will get them defensive right away, even if your _intent_ was to call something what it is. I am not trying to dissuade you from your point but rather trying to explain ways that the same point could be made in a more welcoming, educational way.