But how does one try to change the rules of a place without talking about them? Is the only answer to leave the place and find one where the rules already align

But how does one try to change the rules of a place without talking about them? Is the only answer to leave the place and find one where the rules already align? I don't ask this facetiously, as I studied intercultural communication in college and have lived in a lot of places, often asking myself how much do I stay in a place and try to change the rules versus leaving to find a place where the rules already align with what I want.