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I have an IQ of 130 or a bit more (last I checked, it was many years). I have never gotten my daughter's IQ tested. If she has an IQ of 102, but is emotionall

I have an IQ of 130 or a bit more (last I checked, it was many years). I have never gotten my daughter's IQ tested. If she has an IQ of 102, but is emotionally balanced, she's got a bright future. One of the features of an emotionally gifted/balanced/well-adjusted person, is their ability to use all of their mental powers to bear on a problem, without letting their wishes or fears overwhelm their intellect. Plenty of high-IQ people with emotional issues who do not do as well in living a happy and productive life. For example, figuring out what careers are both plausible and reasonably rewarding (financially and otherwise) is not actually an intellectually difficult one, but plenty of people screw it up because they let envy, shame, fear, greed, or other emotions get the better of them. Your role would be to let her use her talents to make reasonable, well-adjusted choices in life. If she never gets a high IQ, that's not a big problem, as long as she isn't trying to pretend she does, in order to avoid disappointing a loving but emotionally "morose" parent. If she chooses a life that does not require a high IQ, she can still be happy and productive. If she ever needs to make any decisions that require differential equations, she'll have plenty of friends she can ask for help on that.

Bostonian 5y ago
"Plenty of high-IQ people with emotional issues who do not do as well in living a happy and productive life. For example, figuring out what careers are both plausible and reasonably rewarding (financially and otherwise) is not actually an intellectually difficult one" It's not so easy. For example, what fraction of high school students who are good at math know what an actuary is? They have likely heard of doctors, nurses, and lawyers, but what is a management consultant? I've read that there is still a strong tendency for children to follow the careers of their parents. Part of it is genetics (doctors' kids are more likely to have the IQ to be a doctor than kids in general), but part of it is just having those careers on your radar screen.
- rossdavidh 5y ago
  Maybe I should have been more precise. It's not actually an intellectually difficult problem: it may require a lot of research effort, but it is not intellectually complex. Lots of effort is something plenty of IQ 102 people can do, and by the way lots of high-IQ people cannot. Determining if that career will work for you, while emotionally fraught, is not intellectually difficult. But, you're correct, it is not easy. Nothing about it requires a high IQ, though.
perplexedparent 5y ago
> If she ever needs to make any decisions that require differential equations, she'll have plenty of friends she can ask for help on that. Beautifully put. Thank you.

Bostonian 5y ago

"Plenty of high-IQ people with emotional issues who do not do as well in living a happy and productive life. For example, figuring out what careers are both plausible and reasonably rewarding (financially and otherwise) is not actually an intellectually difficult one" It's not so easy. For example, what fraction of high school students who are good at math know what an actuary is? They have likely heard of doctors, nurses, and lawyers, but what is a management consultant? I've read that there is still a strong tendency for children to follow the careers of their parents. Part of it is genetics (doctors' kids are more likely to have the IQ to be a doctor than kids in general), but part of it is just having those careers on your radar screen.

rossdavidh 5y ago
Maybe I should have been more precise. It's not actually an intellectually difficult problem: it may require a lot of research effort, but it is not intellectually complex. Lots of effort is something plenty of IQ 102 people can do, and by the way lots of high-IQ people cannot. Determining if that career will work for you, while emotionally fraught, is not intellectually difficult. But, you're correct, it is not easy. Nothing about it requires a high IQ, though.

perplexedparent 5y ago

> If she ever needs to make any decisions that require differential equations, she'll have plenty of friends she can ask for help on that. Beautifully put. Thank you.