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No, it’s weird and I suspect there’s more to the story on how they arrived at this kind of system. It sounds mechanical and low-trust. Granted, I am not as am
by georgeburdell 5y ago
No, it’s weird and I suspect there’s more to the story on how they arrived at this kind of system. It sounds mechanical and low-trust. Granted, I am not as ambitious as the author, but my wife and I do not ask each other for permission to do things. What we do do is let the other know that we’re taking on an extra responsibility, and specific help needed. We both work in tech and are raising two toddlers.
- sillysaurusx 5y agoMy wife works at a YC co that recently closed their series A. It’s weird to me that you view it as “asking permission” and not “chatting about a thing before committing to it.” You’re not alone in this thread. It feels like most men here view it through the lens of permission. I don’t get it.
- tonyedgecombe 5y agoIt does sound very transactional. If you need to negotiate your time like that then something has gone wrong.
- Zababa 5y agoNot really. Let's say you're sharing chores. It would make sense to ask if your partner is okay with doing a bit more chores while you prepare for a better paying job.
- lostcolony 5y agoDoes it though? "we both agreed it would be perfectly reasonable for me to ask for 30 minutes of additional “me time”" So..."Hey, I wanna do this thing. It'll mean cutting down on our time together/require more help from you in watching the kid(s), but it has the potential of increasing how much I bring home by (X)" "Huh, yeah, that makes sense. Okay"