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What's wild to me is that he had to ask his wife for permission to get more personal time in exchange for getting a much higher paying job. I've been married ov
by wyclif 5y ago
What's wild to me is that he had to ask his wife for permission to get more personal time in exchange for getting a much higher paying job. I've been married over 10 years and have two kids, and I don't need permission from anyone to do something that I think is going to improve the life of my loved ones; I just do it. And anyway, 30 min/day x three months seems to be a really small ask considering the dramatic improvement in financial status his wife and family will benefit from. Essentially that extra 30 minutes a day counts as work he's doing to bring home the bacon.
- oblio 5y agoTalking to your wife about time you'd otherwise spend together is very sensible, especially for a longer period such as 3 months.
- sillysaurusx 5y agoRight? I feel like you and I are living in some alternate reality where we actually talk with our partners before making major life changes.
- oblio 5y agoMy guess is that some of the people crititicizing here are either macho bragging about stuff they don't actually do, have dysfunctional relationships but don't realize it, or much more likely just aren't or haven't been in long term relationships. Some probably misread or are taking a very negative interpretation to what they're reading. Don't worry about it :-)
- sillysaurusx 5y agoExactly! It’s wild to me that so many people here seem to think of it as a permission grant, like they’re upset their wife hasn’t added them to sudoers or something. “How dare I not have admin rights to our life” feels like the tone of the majority of comments in this subtree. It was just surprising.
- wyclif 5y ago
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- humanrebar 5y agoI think it's mostly phrasing. Asking "May I?" seems silly or unhealthy. Asking "What do you think about this?" would seem more normal.
- alistairSH 5y agoHell, I’d talk to my wife about any job change, regardless of the implications on our free time together. Do I need her explicit permission? No. Do I value her input? Yes.