I still don't understand why changing the language to main makes society better in any way except to make us feel like we are making progress and hiding the fac

I still don't understand why changing the language to main makes society better in any way except to make us feel like we are making progress and hiding the fact that we are not. Maybe it causes us to pat ourselves on the back and not actually deal with the infected roots of our culture and societies? Whitelist may be a bit different. I understand that language shapes how we think, but master seems like it would trigger people who have a but of a victim mentality. It's like the word dick, it has a meaning outside of genitals, and if all we can think about is genitals when the word is spoken maybe the problem lies a bit deeper than the word itself. I don't know.. with whitelist and blacklist I could see how unconsciously that could cause people to see black as bad and white as good. But still. Everything has tradeoffs and I also believe that Obama led to Trump. Too much change too quickly leads to backlash and the pendulum swinging violently in the other direction. This increases polarization. I think the solution is more likely not in trying to force our language to change, but is to change our technologies and culture into one that promotes empathy, listening and understanding, and for us to count our blessings instead of running around seeing who can be the better victim, which as a non-american, is what USA looks like to me. If anything the language is more of a symptom of culture than the other way around, even though I agree there is a bidirectional relationship. Hormones change our thoughts more than our thoughts change our hormones, even though there is a bidirection there as well. But to me, to attempt to change culture through language is going to be as effective as trying to will ourselves out of anxiety and depression. I wouldn't be surprised if our generation simply feels powerless in this world. We face a lot of issues ranging from inequality to climate change, and since those issues seem so depressing and insurmountable instead we go on a war against what we feel like we can change, for example words, and then justify to ourselves that this is actually making enough of a difference to steer the ship. But is there any proof of that? All I see is feelings-based decision making without any actual evidence. Again, aside from blacklist vs whitelist which might actually have some substance to its argument.