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When our daughter was 3 or so, she would ask why she wasn't in our wedding pictures. "You weren't born yet" would trigger an incredible meltdown as she confront
by Tao331 4y ago
When our daughter was 3 or so, she would ask why she wasn't in our wedding pictures. "You weren't born yet" would trigger an incredible meltdown as she confronted the idea of having not been alive. Inconsolable. This kept happening. Eventually we just explained as much as it took to get her to settle down. She seemed content with the idea that the ovum that became her was in her mother at that time. At some point she hilariously distorted this into "I was just a head".
Sometimes it's terrifying for them when they don't know the truth.
- afandian 4y agoSame with ours, at the same age. “When you were an egg” was a very satisfactory explanation, and true in most cases. And then “when mummy and daddy were eggs”, which at least lays the conceptual groundwork.
- irrational 4y agoWe have a photo book from just about every family vacation. Our youngest loves looking at them, but is incensed that we went on all these trips before she was born. “Why didn’t you wait till I was here!?” she often asks indignantly. We’ve had to redo so many older family vacations so that she can have a photo book with pictures of the family, including her, in those same places.
- jcampbell1 4y agoThis has nothing to do with sex or being born, it is the normal age where children learn they aren’t the center of the universe. That is what is stressful for them… the idea of independence is scary. There are other childhood development phases such as edge detection physics that make parents bonkers. How many times do we have to pick up spoons from the floor before they just understand that stuff always crashes to the floor when knocked off a high chair?