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Agreed. I’m curious why young, fresh out of college grads who move across country (and have few / no friends in the new local area) make it their employers resp

Agreed. I’m curious why young, fresh out of college grads who move across country (and have few / no friends in the new local area) make it their employers responsibility to foster friendships? Don’t get me wrong - it’s great to have genuine friendships with your coworkers. You work better together and have strong recommendations for the next job or have strong referrals to other companies when your friends leave. At the same time though your employer is not your parents. The best thing they can do is respect a healthy work life balance and give you time so that you can establish your own friendships.

kayodelycaon 5y ago
> I’m curious why young, fresh out of college grads who move across country (and have few / no friends in the new local area) make it their employers responsibility to foster friendships? Schools provide an easy atmosphere to develop friendships without having to look too hard. College does not help with this. I suspect some of them don't know how to make friends on their own. Note: This is from the perspective of someone who didn't have more than one friend as a kid at any time.
michaelt 5y ago
> I’m curious why young, fresh out of college grads [...] make it their employers responsibility to foster friendships? Personally, I've never heard anyone explicitly say it's their employer's responsibility. But if my employer occasionally offers me the option to leave the office early and go drinking at their expense, while getting paid? Nobody's going to oppose having the option.
- bluefirebrand 5y ago
  As long as I can also choose to leave the office early and not go drinking, I have no problem with that. But god forbid anyone just want to put in their time and go home, and not socialize with their coworkers after hours. How anti social of me. I clearly am not a team player.

kayodelycaon 5y ago

> I’m curious why young, fresh out of college grads who move across country (and have few / no friends in the new local area) make it their employers responsibility to foster friendships? Schools provide an easy atmosphere to develop friendships without having to look too hard. College does not help with this. I suspect some of them don't know how to make friends on their own. Note: This is from the perspective of someone who didn't have more than one friend as a kid at any time.

michaelt 5y ago

> I’m curious why young, fresh out of college grads [...] make it their employers responsibility to foster friendships? Personally, I've never heard anyone explicitly say it's their employer's responsibility. But if my employer occasionally offers me the option to leave the office early and go drinking at their expense, while getting paid? Nobody's going to oppose having the option.

bluefirebrand 5y ago
As long as I can also choose to leave the office early and not go drinking, I have no problem with that. But god forbid anyone just want to put in their time and go home, and not socialize with their coworkers after hours. How anti social of me. I clearly am not a team player.