I have had many examples in my life where helping friends have made them dependent on it and later take it for granted. I didn't really set out to help them, e

I have had many examples in my life where helping friends have made them dependent on it and later take it for granted. I didn't really set out to help them, either. Just kinda kept saying yes until they expected me to keep saying yes and became 'surprised' if I hesitated when they asked for too much. It was easy for me most of the time, having the freedom of being single and tons of free time. And these are good people. People I like and am still friends with. Maybe not the most introspective people, but then again probably human nature at work. My selfish motivation for helping was to be liked or respected more. And it made feel good. I got what I wanted but there is also a cost.