Sorry I lashed out. The problem is that certain mindsets are not chosen, but engrained and hard to erase. You can't assume we can simply "Stop" our destructive

Sorry I lashed out. The problem is that certain mindsets are not chosen, but engrained and hard to erase. You can't assume we can simply "Stop" our destructive mindsets. Also, "I just want to sit down and read my books and write my essays but I can't" was the most vulnerable part of my post. You can't just tell me I don't - what the hell?