Yes, but don’t expect perfection. That’s dangerous. My generally rule is, however many hours I’m putting into the pursuits of life, my spouse should be equally

Yes, but don’t expect perfection. That’s dangerous. My generally rule is, however many hours I’m putting into the pursuits of life, my spouse should be equally putting in those hours. You and your spouse are a team. If your both smart and want the same things, you both should be able to figure out a routine that you both can tolerate that also achieves what each of you want. It’s both give and take.