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>superpower of being resilient against life's wraths. how?

hu3 5y ago
Therapy changed the way I see life and toned down my expectations. I live less in the future and more in the present. I judge myself less and feel emotions more.
- AitchEmArsey 5y ago
  Can you give an example of how that improvement manifests itself in a bad situation? Intellectually I am already well aware that my frame of mind is often the main issue and that I could simply choose not to be bothered by something - but that realization is a "system 2" thought which doesn't arrive until "system 1" has already derailed my whole day.
- jasonm23 5y ago
  Tone down expectations. This is the silver bullet in my opinion. How do you define fairness, rethink it and tone down your expectations. How do you define love / relationships? Rethink it and tone down your expectations. How do you define work / career / success? Rethink it and tone down your expectations. I honestly believe this is a huge help. A therapist who is a good fit for you is very hard to find. Learning about the skills you need to reorganize the way you view yourself and the world, simpler and the solution which a good therapist will help you with. As someone who has suffered from depression and been negatively impacted by bad medical interactions for this and other conditions, the only choice is to do the work myself.
  - inter_netuser 5y ago
    >Tone down expectations. This sounds absolutely terrible. Something not to far from victim blaming. Don't have a home? Learn how to be happy homeless! Husband gave you a black eye? Tone down your expectations!
    - brewtide 4y ago
      "expectations are the thief of joy".
      - inter_netuser 4y ago
        misquote. The correct quote is ”COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY.” – THEODORE ROOSEVELT "Comparison is the thief of joy" - As quoted in Becoming a Great School (2013) by Cooper, Gustafson and Salah, p. ix" Nothing wrong with expectations, ambitions, drive.

hu3 5y ago

Therapy changed the way I see life and toned down my expectations. I live less in the future and more in the present. I judge myself less and feel emotions more.

AitchEmArsey 5y ago
Can you give an example of how that improvement manifests itself in a bad situation? Intellectually I am already well aware that my frame of mind is often the main issue and that I could simply choose not to be bothered by something - but that realization is a "system 2" thought which doesn't arrive until "system 1" has already derailed my whole day.
jasonm23 5y ago
Tone down expectations. This is the silver bullet in my opinion. How do you define fairness, rethink it and tone down your expectations. How do you define love / relationships? Rethink it and tone down your expectations. How do you define work / career / success? Rethink it and tone down your expectations. I honestly believe this is a huge help. A therapist who is a good fit for you is very hard to find. Learning about the skills you need to reorganize the way you view yourself and the world, simpler and the solution which a good therapist will help you with. As someone who has suffered from depression and been negatively impacted by bad medical interactions for this and other conditions, the only choice is to do the work myself.
- inter_netuser 5y ago
  >Tone down expectations. This sounds absolutely terrible. Something not to far from victim blaming. Don't have a home? Learn how to be happy homeless! Husband gave you a black eye? Tone down your expectations!
  - brewtide 4y ago
    "expectations are the thief of joy".
    - inter_netuser 4y ago
      misquote. The correct quote is ”COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY.” – THEODORE ROOSEVELT "Comparison is the thief of joy" - As quoted in Becoming a Great School (2013) by Cooper, Gustafson and Salah, p. ix" Nothing wrong with expectations, ambitions, drive.