I'd guess that most people have the capacity to work and also enjoy significant moments in their lives. Some people may get more joy out of crushing a new feat

I'd guess that most people have the capacity to work and also enjoy significant moments in their lives. Some people may get more joy out of crushing a new feature than taking their dad to the same old steakhouse for their birthday but that is more an issue with how Dopamine is distributed than an issues with their motivations. I recently spent the weekend with my brother and his wife both who I love deeply. But during the weekend I felt myself wanting to play Elden Ring and dick off like I often do on the weekend instead of feeling obligated to spend time with them who I only see a few times a year. Does that mean I have some type of flaw? No. It means my reward system loves getting runes so I can level up and make progress in a game which was build specifically trigger that reaction. But I have been alive long enough to know that prioritizing spending time with my family is actually much better for me and everyone involved in the long run than chasing the quick Dopamine hit my body wants. So I do it. We hiked, ate out, watched UNC beat Duke, and had a fantastic time and build memories that I'll cherish going forward. Human are capable of feeling conflicting emotions and drives. It's hard, but finding which things to prioritize kinda is... living.