> LA is massive[1]. If you lived in Manhattan and made plans with people living in Queens or Brooklyn or East Rutherford, you would expect them to flake just as

> LA is massive[1]. If you lived in Manhattan and made plans with people living in Queens or Brooklyn or East Rutherford, you would expect them to flake just as much as people living in LA. If I only make plans with people in Santa Monica and I live in Santa Monica, they will probably show up. Why does logistics make your attendance unreliable? I live in Cambridge (UK) and regularly have social things in London. The transport usually goes: cycle to station (20 minutes), train to London (1 hour), Underground to destination (10-40 minutes). I know that's the transport when I agree to do something - if I don't want to do it, don't accept the invitation. If I change my mind in the intervening period then that's me being shitty for not thinking it through in the first place or for not bothering to put in the effort. If anything the longer the transport the less likely I would be to flake due to the larger mental commitment I've made.